Getting to Clarity
I recently realized that really the goal as a parent is to increase the moments of clarity and decrease the moments of cloudiness. When I have clarity, I know just what to do and I FEEL like a good parent, no matter what others may say or suggest. Conversely, when I do not have clarity, I have tons of fear and just want THE "right" answer, so I tend to survey people. But, if the survey results are irrelevant and even somewhat distracting when I do have clarity, then why is that my go-to when I am seeking it? It doesn't make sense logically and it seems like that route is potentially distracting or even dangerous. Instead, I need to stop, acknowledge that I am lacking clarity, get curious about what is triggering me about the situation, and do what I can to get calm. Then in order to move away from frantic urgency and toward calm and patience, I write something out AS IF I am going to ask for help from a group of parents, but rather than actually send or ...